I’ve just watched this movie and it’s quite interesting. Perhaps because the film is in accordance with my current situation, i mean the Long Distance Relationship thing. There are some conversations in this movie that make me think for a moment, for examples when Erin’s sister said this:
Erin’s sister: he’s thousands of miles away from here. You dont know what he’s doing. He could be be at some bar, doing shots with some sexy bartender
Erin: We’re not trying to choke each other with commitment. But now, you’re freaking me out..
I looked in my own relationship. Yes, he’s also so far away from me and i do not know what he was doing while we’re away. Then..what makes me believe in him? believe that he will not betray our relationship. I dont know. I just trust him. Sometimes there are things you can not explain with words, it only just happened.
So what if my belief is misused?
Well, I’m pretty sure that he’s not that kind of men, because I already knew him long enough. But if people keep asking me ” What if your belief is misused?” . I will answer..let me be a victim of my own optimism. Cause if I had a choice, then I would choose to believe him yesterday, today and tomorrow.
Back on the movie.. I returned to find the conversations that made me think for a while, especially when i heard this:
Garret: You have to take the job
Erin: No..No.. I’m not gonna give up our relationship for a job.
Garret: You need to take the job. This is not about our relationship.
Erin: what’s gonna happen to us?
Garret: We can’t see each other every 3 months. That’s not relationship
Erin: But I love you.. (and then they embraced and both are crying)
There is no “separation” in my dictionary if you still love each other. Everything must be pursued together and we are both looking for the best solution. If you give up the relationship just because of work, I’m pretty sure you will regret it someday. It is easy to find a job especially with all the competencies that you already have, but it’s very difficult to find a life partner that really suits you, although you already have all the competencies.
When Garret said: “We can’t see each other every 3 months. That’s not relationship” I want to laugh and say i beg your pardon. I’ve not seen my Love, for almost a year, but we’re fine. It is a relationship. Relationship is not about how often you meet your partner but how much you are able to maintain a mutually agreed commitment even though you are far apart.